EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW: Sandra Bullock on Marriage and Family
Special to Huntingtonnews.net
Editor’s Note: A little more than a year before Sandra Bullock hoisted her Academy Award for "The Blind Side," Kate Myers interviewed her at a restaurant in Texas for the cover of InStyle magazine. Momlogic.com has received an exclusive look at outtakes from their interview. Here are some highlights from that interview which offers insight into Ms. Bullock’s decision to file for divorce and adopt a child.
Austin, TX (HNN) -- Often regarded as the “girl next door” who made it in Hollywood, Sandra Bullock has been a fan favorite. Last year, she graced multiplex screens from summer through the winter with three features, “The Proposal,” “The Blind Side” and “All About Steve.” She won a best actress Oscar for “Blind Side,” and a razzie for “All About Steve.” Her films have ranged from “The Lake House” to “Miss Congeniality”
Shortly after the ceremony, Bullock’s life was rocked by revelations that her husband, Jesse James, had cheated on her. He apologized and went into rehab; she moved out and has now filed for divorce… and adopted a child.
However, Bullock kept the adoption a secret for months. Some reports indicate use of CIA decoy-cars and not letting anyone into her house that wasn’t trusted. Now, she’s bound for New Orleans , and, wants to “move on,” so she’s told her fans and the world the truth which prevents (at least in theory) nosy gossip rags from scourging for secrets.
HIGHLIGHTS: (Links at end for full interview; printed courtesy of Warner Bros.)
Kate Myers: What do you want to be remembered for?
Sandra Bullock: My first thought: To be a good wife, which I never thought I would be. I never thought I would be a good wife.
Kate Myers: What are your thoughts on starting a family?
Sandra Bullock: I haven't had children biologically. I had shut that [feeling] off; then I met Jesse and it turned on again. I went, "Oh my God, that's that feeling." But then we both realized [that] to bring someone into this world right at that time, when I was feeling it, was not responsible, because we had to take care of some other things that were already on this planet that needed our undivided attention.
There are millions of children on this planet that I would be honored to call my child.
Kate Myers: What are some of the challenges of being married (note: this was asked prior to revelation of her husband’s affairs)?
Sandra Bullock: As long as he can read his four papers in the morning and have his one French-press of coffee -- only after that; I know the rules. I know he has to get through those things before he can handle me ... I know that. But I also know what I need to handle him. My greatest joy isn't that I can run a company, isn't that I can make money or that I can employ people or move mountains ... in the end, can I make the home, our home, be what it's supposed to be?
Kate Myers: What is the key to making a high-profile marriage work with such hectic schedules?
Sandra Bullock: Not making it "high profile." Take your marriage and your wedding out of your business. The few times I've opened my mouth and said things that went beyond, I've paid the price. It's always bad karma. We don't have a high-profile relationship. We don't. My home and my family and my stepkids, that's my first priority ... my sister and my friends, those people who are behind that little wall, that rock that I live under. That's my first priority and everything else is secondary.
I always wanted to be someone that protected the family when I grew up. I didn't want to have a child out of wedlock and bring it into the world. I could have had kids at 17 -- I love kids so much. I shut it down, [not] bringing that into my life until I'm ready -- until I'm ready to be the person that child deserves. I'm glad, because I've seen so many people regret ... the people that didn't live their lives, and then they blame their kids. It breaks my heart. I go, "You brought kids into the world. Every day should be like a party, like, 'Oh my God, what are you going to do today?' instead of going, 'I had kids and I can't do what I want.'" It should be the greatest thrill ride ... the greatest construction site…
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Kate Myers: What did you learn from being a waitress?
BULLOCK: EVERYTHING. I think that being a waitress ... each person you serve is different. If you can waitress in New York, you can do any job in the world. I worked my way up from coat-checking to cocktail to waitressing. I think the President of the United States should wait tables. There's a human element ... how to connect with human beings. How to serve someone ... there is nothing that makes you more of a human being [than being] able to serve someone and care for them and give them a pleasurable night. To deal with all the different personalities. Everything I know of life, I learned through waitressing. And it's humbling. It keeps you where you're supposed to be. I'm a civil servant. That's what we're supposed to be in this world -- to the ground, to the buildings, to your neighbors, to the trees, to the animals. You have to be a civil servant, or it doesn't work.
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FOR MORE OUTTAKES FROM THE 2009 SANDRA INTERVIEW: http://www.momlogic.com/2010/04/sandra_bullock_in_her_own_words.php
FOR FULL STORY: http://www.momlogic.com/2010/04/perfect_casting_sandra_bullock_as_mom_kate_meyers.php