Come Home. Love, Dad: Sam’s Chickadees Leave the Nest
By Shelly Reuben
Next in the series from Come Home. Love, Dad, published by Bernard Street Books, a memoir about my father, Samuel Reuben – a truly extraordinary man.
I left home when I was eighteen years old. I had the electricity of youth agitating through my veins, and a misguided compass in my brain telling me that Polar North was New York City. I was young, eager, anxious, totally unafraid, and ready for life. I was going to be a writer. I was already an adventuress. That this was true, I had learned late nights in my attic bedroom – the room we called The Ivory Tower, which we only inhabited sequentially after an older sibling had moved out and gone to college.
I was an adventuress because, wild-eyed and sleepless up in my ivory tower, I built skyscrapers with Howard Roark; I suffered Dostoyevskian sorrows with Prince Myshkin; I burned for justice in South Africa with Robert Ruark; I plunged for pearls with John Steinbeck; I fought bulls with Ernest Hemingway; I stole beautiful white horses with William Saroyan; I endured poverty in Brooklyn with Betty Smith; I smuggled guns into Haifa with Leon Uris; and ultimately, I expired in a back alley, my head bloodied but my white plume unsullied, with Cyrano de Bergerac.
After this wild extravaganza of vicarious experiences, reality promised to be tame by comparison.
But reality – New York – awaited.
“Mom, I’m home,” became “Mom, I’m leaving home.” Perhaps it was my love of drama or my disenchantment with the predictability of a conventional wedding ceremony (I would have preferred my sister to elope at dawn under a crimson sun), or just a natural chaffing at the bit to get on with my life. In retrospect, though, I didn’t really have to maximize the trauma for my parents and leave the very same day that my sister got married.
A classified ad at the back of a national magazine led to my getting a job in New Rochelle, New York. I was to be Thomas J. Clark, the head correspondent of a book club, managing, with quick flick of my pen, the worries and woes of disgruntled club members.
It was my first writing job. And my last.
Yes, I stated heartlessly to my parents, I would stay for my sister’s wedding, but only on two conditions: One, I will not be Maid of Honor; and two, you will drive me to the bus station immediately after the wedding so that I can stop pussy-footing around with all this childhood stuff and begin my … L * I * F * E.
